Don’t settle for someone your not attracted to because they happen to be real nice, spiritual or make lots of money. Marriage comes with challenges, everyday will not be a honeymoon you will say and do things to hurt each other. You will fall in and out of love with your mate…these things happen when you have chemistry and your attracted to each other. Can you imagine not being attracted to your spouse and you have a disagreement and they try and touch you? You might have to pop a xanax pill and drink a couple of glasses of wine just so that you can feel comfortable giving them a hug. Now everything is NOT about looks. I was in a situation years ago where I fell for a friend who was so intelligent, kind, and funny…we were friends for a long time when his looks started to transform and he became beautiful to me. Nothing came out of it because he lives in England. That was a RARE occasion. Its  important  that I have that  electronic spark with the person I will attempt to marry. I don’t want to wait years to fall in love with my mate. I want us to both be in love with each other. So when the hard times come and we  make up after a big disagreement I will feel that spark when he holds my hand. I’d rather be single a little longer than to settle out of desparation. My identity is not based on who I’m married to, its based on how well I do hair💕💕 I will not settle. I will stay focused on moving out to my own pad in October, my makeup artist goals and other personal things I’m working on.  I have 4 potential mates, may the best man win. No need for me to make anything happen, may the chips fall where they may. I will hold out for the one I want without coarcing, chasing, or humiliating myself. The only thing we have is our dignity if you loose that over a person you’ve lost a whole lot, it can take many years to recover and you will end up feeling resentment. Focus  and loving yourself  FIRST…its better to be single than in a miserable marriage.  Count your blessings💕 in the meantime get a nice pedicure and get some cute strappy sandals.