Many men find themselves frustrated with the dating scene. Women often seem to gravitate toward “bad boys” or troublemakers—sometimes referred to as “pookies,” “Ray-Rays,” or “El Snoopy”—instead of nice guys.

1. The Nice Guy Syndrome

The Perception of Boredom: Many women see the “nice guy” as predictable or boring. While it’s admirable to be respectful, constantly being agreeable and avoiding conflict can lead to a lack of excitement in the relationship.


This can make it hard for women to feel a strong attraction, as they often crave a partner who brings a sense of adventure.

2. Attraction and Chemistry

The Role of Challenge: Attraction often involves chemistry, which can be sparked by a bit of mystery or challenge. Women may be drawn to partners who bring unpredictability.


This doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate kindness; rather, they might be looking for someone who is also confident and assertive.

3. The Allure of the “Bad Boy“

Projecting Potential: Many women find themselves attracted to “bad boys.” The thrill of being with someone who has that edgy, confident demeanor can feel exciting, but it often stems from a desire to “fix” someone.


However, the truth is you can’t change someone who isn’t willing to change.

4. Leaving Room for Mystery

Don’t Be Too Eager: Avoid mentioning a thirsty desire to get married right away on a dating site or even during the first three dates with women. Keep that topic out of your conversations so you don’t come off as desperate.


Many good guys get passed up when they immediately express a desire for marriage. If you’re on a dating site, just say you’re testing the waters to see where things lead. Leaving a little mystery in that department can keep her intrigued.

5. Keeping Your Word

Be Reliable: When you tell a woman you’re going to call at a certain time, keep your word and call her then. Don’t overwhelm her with multiple calls or texts throughout the day, as that can come off as too intense or even scary.


If you say you’re going to text her at a specific time, make sure you follow through. This builds trust and shows that you mean what you say and say what you mean.

6. Embracing Authenticity

Show Your True Self: Instead of trying to fit into the mold of what you think women want, focus on being your authentic self. Engage in activities you’re passionate about, develop your interests, and cultivate confidence.


Authenticity is attractive and helps build genuine connections.

Conclusion

Let her see how nice you are. Allow her to discover for herself that you are a kind person by observing how you treat others. Don’t be so quick to declare your loyalty, faithfulness, or truthfulness; sometimes, saying too much can create expectations that are hard to meet.

It’s like when narcissistic individuals love-bomb you—avoid that behavior, even if you don’t have narcissistic traits. Let relationships marinate like they’re in a slow cooker; allow them to develop naturally and at their own pace.

By being patient and authentic, you create an environment where genuine connections can flourish. Remember, the right partner will appreciate you for who you are, not just the facade you put up. Trust the process and let your true self shine through.

Relationship Coach Evy 🩵🖤🩵🖤🩵🖤🩵