I want you to know how proud I am of each and every one of you. The journey you’ve walked, filled with complexities, pain, and confusion, has led you here—standing tall, resilient, and worthy of all the love and peace in the world. You’ve survived relationships with mothers who may have supported you in certain ways, but who also left deep emotional scars, scars that perhaps you still carry. Despite it all, you are here, and you are so strong.

I know how confusing it can be, especially if you experienced this pain as a teenager. When we’re young, our hearts and minds are still forming, and it can feel impossible to think clearly when the person meant to love and protect you—the person you should be able to trust—leaves you questioning everything. I want you to know that you’re not alone in these feelings. So many daughters have walked this path, struggling with mothers who should have lifted them up but instead left them feeling hurt and diminished.

And when trust with your mother is broken, you may find yourself searching for that missing trust in all the wrong places, often falling into the arms of people who take advantage of your vulnerability—narcissistic partners, toxic friends, or manipulative coworkers. The hurt piles on, and it feels like a cycle that you can’t escape.

But you can break free. You deserve to reclaim your life, your joy, and your self-worth. And healing—though not always easy—is possible. Let me share three steps with you that can guide you on this journey of healing:

1. Reclaim Your Identity
Your mother may have tried to define you, control you, or make you feel small. But you are so much more than her projections. You are unique, filled with dreams and potential that no one can take away from you. Take the time to rediscover yourself—your passions, your strengths, and all the beautiful parts of you that make you who you are. Surround yourself with people who truly see you and who honor the person you are becoming. Speak loving affirmations to yourself every day, and know that you are more than enough.

2. Set Boundaries Without Guilt
Boundaries are an act of love—for yourself. It can feel so hard, especially when it’s your mother, to create space and protect your peace. But your mental and emotional health matter just as much as anyone else’s. Whether that means creating emotional distance, limiting contact, or stepping away entirely, you deserve to do what feels right for you. Remember, setting boundaries is not unloving; it is an act of self-care. You are allowed to protect your energy, and you do not owe anyone an explanation for it.

3. Forgive Yourself, Not Her Behavior
Forgiveness is a powerful act, but it’s important to remember that forgiving someone doesn’t mean excusing their behavior or forgetting the pain they caused. It means letting go of the guilt or shame you’ve carried because of them. It means releasing yourself from the weight of their actions. It’s not your fault. You did not deserve the manipulation, the emotional abuse, or the gaslighting. Forgive yourself for the times you believed their hurtful words, and remember that the most important love you can offer is the love you give to yourself.




You are more than the pain you’ve endured. Healing isn’t a straight line, and there will be days when it feels hard to move forward. But every single step toward healing is a step toward reclaiming your joy, your peace, and your life. You are deserving of love, true love—the kind that builds you up, fills your heart, and surrounds you with peace.

You are brave, you are strong, and most of all, you are worthy of all the love and light this world has to offer.

Coach Evy 🩵