Yesterday, after getting my taxes done, I went to get my nails done, and it sparked a deep conversation about relationships. My tax guy mentioned something that stuck with me—he said it’s much more stressful preparing taxes when clients are going through a divorce. He literally told me, “Don’t get divorced!” It was half-joking but also serious. He’s seen so many couples in their 60s and 70s ending their marriages, especially after the kids leave home.

And it’s true. Many couples put so much focus on raising their children that they forget to nourish their relationship. Then one day, the kids are gone, and they realize they don’t know each other anymore.

Now, I’m not here to tell anyone to stay in a toxic relationship. If you’re facing verbal or physical abuse, your mental and physical health must come first. Only you know your limits, and you need to protect yourself. But for those couples who’ve simply grown apart, it’s often neglect—not hatred—that breaks the bond.

Why Do Couples Divorce After the Kids Leave?

Children are a beautiful blessing, but they are a transitional part of life. They grow up, move out, and build their own families. Your marriage, however, is meant to be permanent. But when couples stop dating, stop complimenting each other, and let disrespect slide, the relationship fades.

Two Powerful Tips to Keep Your Marriage Alive

These are two simple but powerful strategies to protect your marriage.


1. Husbands and Wives, Keep Investing in Yourselves and Each Other

Husbands, if you feel like your wife isn’t as attracted to you anymore, take action. Get those braces, hit the gym, cut back on drinking, and start complimenting her again. Show her you still care about keeping the spark alive.

Wives, respect is everything. Be mindful of how you talk about your husband. Stop emasculating him in public or exposing his flaws to everyone. It’s not just hurtful—it creates negative energy that follows you home. Speak life over him, build him up, and be his safe place.


2. Keep Dating Each Other

Never stop dating. No matter how busy life gets, always find time for just the two of you. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. Take walks, cook together, or just sit and talk. Staying connected is about consistent effort.


Final Thought:

Every marriage takes work. Yes, kids are important, but when they leave, it’s your spouse who will still be by your side. If you neglect the relationship, it may not survive. These two tips are a great start, but there’s so much more to building a thriving marriage.

And if you’re wondering how to keep your marriage strong for the long haul, that’s where my relationship coaching comes in. I guide couples through personalized strategies to protect and strengthen their bond—because your marriage deserves to thrive, not just survive.


Ready to Invest in Your Relationship?
If you’re serious about keeping your marriage strong, reach out for a coaching session. Your relationship is worth the investment.


And hey, I hope you like my nails!
I got them done yesterday, and I’m loving them. Sometimes it’s the little things that make us feel good—and feeling good helps us show up better in every area of life, including relationships.



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