Years ago, I was in line at a coffee shop in a plaza, behind a man and a woman. As we approached the door, the man kindly rushed to open it for her.

She turned around and went off on him.
“I didn’t ask you to open the door!” she snapped.
Then she went on and on—saying she didn’t need a man’s help, that she could do it herself, and no one asked him to get involved. She was completely unhinged over something that was simply kind.

His face turned red. His eyes welled up. He looked humiliated.

I was younger then and stayed quiet, but that moment stuck with me.
I’ve always said thank you when a man opens the door for me, because I value kindness. Sadly, moments like that are why some men stop showing it.

Another time, outside the salon where I used to work, a woman fell. My client and I tried to help her, and my client is in great shape—she goes to the gym. But even the two of us couldn’t lift her. The woman pointed to a thin guy walking by and said, “I want him to help me.” And guess what? He did. She felt safer with him.

Now, I’m not saying the woman who fell was a feminist—but it’s an example. You can’t reject men’s help when it’s polite, and then expect their help when it’s convenient. You can’t have it both ways.


To Women Who Take Feminism Too Far:

1. Pick your battles.
Don’t reject kindness and then depend on men when you need help.

2. Be kind.
If you don’t want help, just say so respectfully. Don’t be cruel.

3. Strength doesn’t mean shutting down others.
Chivalry isn’t weakness—it’s a form of love and respect.


That same man probably never opened a door for another woman again—
not because he stopped being kind, but because someone made him feel like kindness wasn’t welcome anymore.