There’s something off about the whole Jennifer Lopez, Jennifer Garner, and Ben Affleck situation, and I don’t think people want to admit why. It’s not cute. It’s not romantic. And from the outside looking in, it’s honestly uncomfortable to watch.I’m watching two grown, successful women move with zero dignity around the same man. And I say that humbly, not cruelly. Because dignity isn’t about divorce papers or “moving on” publicly. Dignity is about emotional detachment. And neither of them has done that.Jennifer Lopez moves loud. She moves bold. She moves like feelings give her permission. There’s a pattern of overlapping relationships, blurred boundaries, and rewriting timelines to fit whatever story feels good in the moment. Desire first. Reflection later. Accountability almost never. Everything is about passion, chemistry, intensity. And when things fall apart, it’s always someone else’s fault. That’s not confidence. That’s impulse dressed up as empowerment.Jennifer Garner moves quieter, but quiet doesn’t mean clean. She’s always framed as the sweet one, the good woman, America’s sweetheart. But from the outside, it looks like she’s more emotionally present with her ex-husband now than when they were married. She has a boyfriend, yet she’s rarely seen prioritizing him. Instead, she’s hovering. Lingering. Staying close. That’s not just co-parenting. That’s attachment that never really let go.And this is where it gets weird.Both women left Ben Affleck. They divorced him. They walked away. Yet neither of them actually moved on. They’re both still emotionally circling the same man. One through visibility and narrative. The other through proximity and availability. Different styles. Same triangle.People love to call this empowerment. I don’t see empowerment at all. There is nothing empowered about lingering around a man you supposedly outgrew. There is nothing strong about staying emotionally accessible to someone you chose to leave. And there is nothing dignified about fighting for the attention of a man you already walked away from.From the outside, it looks like two women who can’t fully let go, and one man who benefits from it. Because when women hover, compare, stay relevant, and position themselves emotionally, the man stays central without having to fully choose or fully close the door. He gets validation without responsibility. Attention without finality. Care without clarity.That’s not accidental.And let’s be honest. Ben Affleck is not some rare prize. He’s a dysfunctional man with a long history of addiction, emotional instability, and chaos. Yet here are two wealthy, famous women losing self-respect over him. That should disturb people more than it does.This is why I tell women to stop putting themselves in triangle situations. The moment you realize another woman is emotionally positioned around the same man, the answer is not to compete harder, stay longer, or prove loyalty. The answer is to leave with dignity. Because the only way to win a triangle is not to participate in it at all.Real empowerment is silence. Distance. Detachment. Moving on so cleanly that there’s no confusion about where you stand or who has access to you.If you divorced a man, move on.If you left him, let him go.If he creates hovering, comparison, or emotional competition, remove yourself.Money doesn’t protect you from this. Fame doesn’t protect you. Beauty doesn’t protect you. Being the “good woman” doesn’t protect you. The only thing that protects you is self-respect and boundaries.This isn’t a love story. It’s a pattern. And watching it play out publicly is a reminder of how important it is for women to choose dignity over attachment, even when emotions try to pull you back.