I’ve always felt uneasy about Diddy, especially when he started dating Cassie Ventura. After his breakup with J-Lo, it seemed like he was desperate to maintain control. When J-Lo left him and refused to return, it felt as though he clung to Cassie, not wanting her to leave him the same way.

Despite his wealth, Diddy shows signs of deep insecurity. He made promises to Cassie about launching her music career, but nothing significant ever came from it. I remember only one song from her, Me & U, but after that, there wasn’t much. I couldn’t help but feel that Diddy was sabotaging her career and holding her back.

There were also times when Cassie was asked why she didn’t perform on stage, and instead of letting her speak, Diddy would answer for her. He’d claim that she was too nervous to perform. But if he was genuinely supportive, as her producer and manager, why wasn’t he encouraging her to overcome her fears? It felt as though he had no intention of letting her shine; he preferred to keep her under his control to soothe his own insecurities.

Over the years, it became clear that their relationship was a cycle of make-ups and break-ups. The energy Cassie displayed revealed that she wasn’t a free woman; she was being controlled. People often ask why someone doesn’t leave a toxic relationship, but they don’t realize that before physical abuse begins, emotional and mental manipulation take hold. A narcissist tears you down spiritually and emotionally, making you believe that the abuse is your fault. Victims start to rationalize their abuser’s behavior, thinking they can change things by adjusting their own actions. But there is no reasoning with a narcissist; you cannot negotiate with someone who operates with a manipulative and harmful mindset.

Additionally, I recall when Biggie Smalls and Tupac died, Diddy’s reactions seemed detached, lacking the sorrow or empathy one would expect, especially for Biggie’s death. Instead, he quickly released the song Every Breath You Take. It felt as though he prioritized creating a popular song over genuinely mourning the loss of his friend and peer. Even if he and Tupac were not close, showing joy at someone’s death is revealing. Tupac’s criticism and truth-speaking likely challenged Diddy’s narrative and ego, as Diddy, a narcissistic and manipulative figure, couldn’t handle Tupac’s authenticity.

When accusations were made by West Coast rappers and others about Diddy’s involvement in Tupac and Biggie’s deaths, he remained unusually quiet. Initially, I thought he was taking the accusations with humility. But in reality, his silence felt like an admission of guilt, as though he was hiding the truth about his involvement. The suspicion that he might have been behind the plot to have them killed becomes even more plausible when looking at his pattern of behavior—staying quiet and manipulating situations to maintain power.

I also noticed Diddy’s behavior following the death of his baby mama, Kim Porter. Diddy has never been married, and his relationships appear transactional—he sleeps with women and discards them when they no longer serve his purpose. Reports of his abusive behavior toward Kim Porter, including breaking her nose and harassing her when she dated others, illustrate his pattern of manipulation and control. Yet, when she passed away, Diddy cried what seemed like crocodile tears, claiming she was the love of his life. If she truly was, why didn’t he ever marry her? Instead, he kept impregnating her while making her suffer, showing that his words don’t align with his actions.

This behavior was a slap in the face to Cassie, who dedicated years of her life to him, only to hear Diddy mourn Kim Porter as the love of his life. You can mourn someone, but to proclaim such devotion while engaging in inappropriate behavior with other women and mistreating Cassie shows his true lack of integrity.

This blog aims to highlight red flags for women. Powerful men like Diddy can often manipulate others by using their status and influence. Many women, especially young ones, fall into these traps because they are drawn to power. Cassie, who was only 17 or 19 when she met Diddy, faced this power dynamic. When someone has that much power over you, it’s hard to escape. People may not believe you, and the abuser may use their influence to silence you.

Cassie’s escape only came when her current husband, a man Diddy hired as her personal trainer, helped her leave. This shows the importance of strong male figures in a woman’s life—uncles, brothers, and friends who can offer support and help women see the truth about abusive relationships. Unfortunately, it seems Cassie didn’t have many male figures in her life to intervene.

This issue isn’t exclusive to Diddy; it’s part of the larger hip-hop culture, which often promotes misogynistic ideals. For example, Snoop Dogg’s infamous song, Ain’t No Fun (If the Homies Can’t Have None), promotes the idea of passing women around as if they hold no value. When you strip away the catchy beat and listen to the lyrics, it’s clear that many songs degrade women and reinforce harmful mindsets.

Music has a powerful influence on people, especially within certain cultures and communities. You don’t see drive-by shooters listening to classical or country music; they are often influenced by the aggressive, degrading lyrics that match the lifestyle they live. It’s a reflection of a deeper cultural issue that not only impacts individuals but also reinforces negative behaviors, especially toward women.

Furthermore, I remember reading an article where Diddy mentioned he only sleeps three to four hours a night. At the time, I thought it was because he was a hustler, always out there making money. But now, it seems more likely that his lack of sleep is due to his lifestyle—hosting demonic freak-off parties and engaging in behavior that goes beyond the hustle. It’s not about hard work; it’s about maintaining control and power through toxic and destructive means.

Three Red Flags of Narcissistic Men and Women:

1. They break you down emotionally and spiritually before physical abuse.


2. They don’t know how to apologize—or give fake apologies.


3. They lack empathy and are shallow.



Narcissistic behavior often stems from insecurity, and Diddy’s actions reflect that pattern. It’s not about the fame or money—it’s about maintaining control and ensuring that the people around him validate his self-worth.

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