Toxic relationships—especially with narcissistic individuals—can leave deep emotional scars. It’s okay to feel bad, even duped. These feelings are valid. But let’s explore how to use these experiences as a foundation to grow and rediscover yourself.

One of the many reasons I became a relationship coach was because I know how painful it is to heal from a toxic relationship. It took me years to move forward after a breakup with a narcissist. I blamed myself for taking so long to heal, but I learned that recovery takes time when someone manipulative and selfish shatters your trust.

Covert narcissists often seem too good to be true. They charm everyone with kindness and empathy, leaving people in awe. But much of their behavior is an act designed to serve their own benefit. Over time, cracks appear in their facade, and you’re left questioning your reality.

When dealing with a covert narcissist, don’t openly share your experience until you’ve left. People may defend the narcissist, saying, “They’d never do that,” which can hurt more than the situation itself. Narcissists are experts at maintaining a perfect facade, and exposing them prematurely can make you look bad. Confide only in trusted friends who truly support you.




Steps to Rebuild Self-Love

1. Accept Love From Others: Lean on family and friends who remind you of your worth.


2. Set Small Goals: Go back to school, learn a trade, or start a hobby.


3. Indulge in Self-Care: Treat yourself to small joys. Buy new sheets or a coat you’ve been eyeing.


4. Move Your Body: Even a 15-minute walk can lift your spirits.



Healing isn’t about forgetting—it’s about rediscovering yourself. Covert narcissists may leave you doubting your worth, but with self-love, you’ll rebuild into the strongest version of yourself.